A simple, affirming guide to feeling confident and connected in front of the camera.
Posing as a Queer Couple: What Matters Most
Posing should never feel forced, stiff, or awkward. It should feel like you.
You do not need to perform or play roles. As queer folks, you deserve to be documented as you are. Our job as photographers is to make you feel safe and seen while capturing your real connection.
Affirming Poses That Feel Natural
Here are the types of prompts we often use to help our couples relax and connect during a session. No pressure. Just real moments.
Soft and connected
- Hugging from behind
- Nuzzling, hand-holding, or resting foreheads together
- Sitting close with limbs tangled or overlapping
Playful and full of energy
- Running or spinning together
- Whispering something silly or sweet
- Dancing, jumping, laughing mid-motion
Powerful and cinematic
- Walking together, side by side, slow and grounded
- Standing back to back, holding hands
- Eye contact that says “this is my person”
Romantic and quiet
- Cheek kisses and forehead touches
- Holding one another in silence
- Resting your head on their shoulder or chest
What You Do Not Have to Do When Posing For Photos
There is no right or wrong way to pose. But there are some things you absolutely do not need to do, especially if they make you uncomfortable.
You do not have to:
- Choose one person to be “the groom” and the other “the bride”
- Perform gendered poses
- Follow traditions that do not reflect your identity
- Pretend you are someone else
You are allowed to look and feel like yourself.
Tips to Feel More Comfortable When Taking Photos
These small things can make a big difference during your session.
- Wear something that feels good on your body. Comfort matters.
- Move a little before we start. Shake it out, laugh, walk together.
- Pick a location that feels like you. That can be a beach, a forest, a backyard, or your favorite street corner.
- Be honest with us. If a pose or prompt does not feel right, say so. We will pivot.
It’s Okay to Say, “This Doesn’t Feel Like Us”
You are not being difficult by voicing what you need. That is part of the process. In fact, the best sessions come from open conversations and gentle collaboration.
We are not here to create photos for Pinterest. We are here to create something that reflects you and your relationship.
